I had so many thoughts on ways to
handle this dilemma. Of course Gee opted for the easiest which was for me to
have an abortion which I considered. I booked an appointment to have the
procedure done but on the fateful day fear no allow me reach the hospital lol. I
knew like I knew my name that this child would bring me happiness and open my
eyes to a lot things.
So for me the baby was a keeper, Gee
had to get his head around it. Of course I couldn’t tell my parents directly so
I had to go through my elder brother, who broke the news to my mum (who was at
the time doing omugwo for my elder sister). My mum was heartbroken and she couldn’t
even imagine breaking that kind of news to my dad, so we pushed my elder
brother forward as per first son of the house hehe… My dad was beyond heartbroken,
he took it even harder than my mum. Fortunately for me I was away from home so I
was to an extent shielded from experiencing the hurt I had caused to my family.
My dad an Elder in his church and
my mum a Deaconess… How will they show their faces in public? In church? What kind of advice will they be
able to give people? Oh No! What have I done??? The reality of the implications
began to set in gradually as it took over a month to get my dad to speak to me.
He was devastated, beyond broken.
Back here Gee was struggling to
break the news to his folks, he finally did and they were livid! I couldn’t understand
why they were so upset and I was told I had cheated myself. Nine months later I
had my healthy handsome baby boy and thankfully I had my mum around to look
after us.
Plans for marriage to Gee
crumbled like a stack of cards, a lot of water passed under the bridge and
certain experiences (story for another day) led me to make the ultimate decision
to end the relationship. Let’s just say I was miserable.
Due to my many experiences, I had
to move back to Naija…Hmmm. Where will I even begin? The plenty talks? Our
culture? How will I cope? I had to prepare myself mentally, emotionally and physically
for the change. All the people who will be willing to offer free unsolicited
advice Chei!
I knew I was in for a long ride…
